Olivia's story - part 1

Warning: If you have kids, you should read this post for appropriateness before letting them read it. Also, if it seems like an annoying amount of detail, please forgive me. This post is as much for myself and Rafe as it is for everyone else.

My belly seemed to grow quickly the weeks before I had Olivia. My belly was as large as it was when I had Amelia, and I still had over 2 months left before she was due (October 22). Rafe and I kept joking about going into labor; I was exhausted and had really bad back pain all week. I kept telling him I was probably going to have back labor if this was how bad I felt at 7 months pregnant. I couldn't bend over to tie my shoes, I could barely get dressed and I had a woman gently poke me in the belly one week before she was born to tell me that I looked like I was about to pop.

The Sunday she was born (has it already been 3 weeks this Sunday?!?!), I went to church feeling back pains and cramping. I had been feeling exhausted all week - only able to do about three hours of real work each day without lying down. After church, I was too tired to do anything but take a nap after lunch and so I slept till around 4. I was still cramping lightly, but after going to the hospital twice before that month and being dismissed by the staff with sheets of paper that they highlighted with reasons to come back (cramps weren't highlighted), I felt silly calling the doctor. Every time I had mentioned pain or other issues, they were explained away. Now I wish I had taken them a little less seriously and myself a little more.

We'd promised to take Amelia swimming that Sunday, so while Rafe was getting her ready to go after my nap I went to the bathroom before leaving - only to wipe away two tissues of my mucous plug. Immediately our plans changed and we scrambled to find someone to watch Amelia as we headed to the hospital. Unfortunately, no one was available and Amelia was crying hysterically - scared about the suddenness of change in plans and mommy and daddy rushing to the hospital. We had to throw her into the car screaming, but luckily by the time we made it to the hospital she was quiet again.

Once at the hospital, I was rushed to the Antepartum in a wheelchair - only to find no one there. We went to the nurses desk and had to get a nurses attention (the only one there apparently, and it was her dinner break since she had her back to us eating) in order to be seen. After that, no one seemed in a hurry for anything. I was on a monitor for two hours with Rafe trying to keep Amelia entertained in the chair.... she was remarkably well behaved, quiet and obedient.

As a military family, the government supplies our health care. (Anyone who wants the government to run their health care should ask a military family how managed care is working for them when they need anything out of the ordinary). So even though we went to a civilian hospital, my doctor that evening was a military doctor on call. He never came in the first time, and never ordered a vaginal check or an ultrasound. I have no idea what the nurse conveyed to the doctor, so I have no idea where the system broke down - whether she failed to communicate everything to him or if he failed to diagnose properly. During those two hours, my "cramps" registered as "irritations" on the monitor, according to the nurse. I told her my belly had been going numb for two weeks and that I couldn't feel my baby move in the middle of my belly and only felt slight movements along the outer edges. She didn't seem concerned and apparently neither was my doctor. She did mention that if I had any more mucous incidents to show her.

During this time, I mentioned several times about my belly being numb and not being able to feel the baby move. She pointed out the sounds on the monitor as baby movements, but each time she pointed out the sounds, I felt nothing and told her that. There was no explanation as to why that was or even a mention that it was out of the ordinary.

After about two hours, I was told that nothing was wrong and I could leave. All my concerns were explained away - cramping was probably gas or needing to defecate; I was probably dehydrated, the bloody mucous was probably from intercourse. I still felt uneasy; I mentioned that I was diligent in drinking water, eating fiber, having prunes with meals, wasn't stopped up (although it felt like it), and ok, cervix can sometimes get bloody with intercourse but THAT bloody? And what was the mucous about? She told me it was semen, but it wasn't even possible and I told her that. I was too uncomfortable physically to finish an intimate encounter the night before. But each symptom was systematically checked off the list and explained away; and once again I felt silly for going to the hospital concerned about this baby. I went to the bathroom again and wiped away more bloody mucous and showed it to her. She said it didn't seem to be anything to be concerned about.

Right before leaving, as she was once again at a desk eating with her back to me (only this time it was in the antepartum room and there was another nurse there next to her), I asked a question - If I was fine, then what were the cramps all about? I told her that when I had stood up to go to the bathroom (and mentioned that once there, I couldn't go at all and just felt pressure), I had a very strong cramp, like a really really horrible period cramp right before going in. She said she didn't really know but to go home and call back if they became worse. During my visit, she was also monitoring another woman who had come in twice for false labor and told me that sometimes that just happens - I had a feeling that she thought my body was sending me false signals also.

However... a simple vaginal check or ultrasound at that point would have made all the difference in the world to the health of my sweet Olivia Grace. They would have discovered that I was already in labor and I would have had enough time to get to MUSC or at least have a steroid shot or drugs to slow labor down. It was getting late, and we needed to get Amelia back home and into bed. I was stressed out and wanted to trust that the medical professionals knew what they were talking about so I didn't press the issue.